Appliance/Electronics Graveyard

This is what Dana, my sister-in-law, has dubbed my house. And today I'm convinced it's true. These are the things that have happened just in the past several weeks...

-Our washer went out, so we replaced it.
-Our dryer and dishwasher were on their last legs also, so we took further advantage of the sale at Sears and replaced them.
-Our television went out AGAIN and Best Buy finally replaced it.
-Our 6 month old Dyson is not acting right, but of course, the repair guy says there's nothing wrong with it (still dealing with that one with Dyson).
-The mustang won't start and won't jump off...pretty sure it's the battery, just haven't gotten around to dealing with that.
-This weekend, our Mac crashed - won't start up at all, took it to the Mac store, and it needs a new hard drive. Dee is working on getting our files off of it.

I told Dee I was going to go ahead and shoot our other car, the oven, & the refrigerator just to put them out of their misery, since they're doomed here.

In the midst of all this, we were driving home from the mall after receiving the dreaded verdict at the Mac store and we were listening to J.R. It was a song I love about leaving all our cares with the Lord and how He dries our tears and gives us joy and peace. Then we passed the scene of a wreck where the ambulance was already there with its doors open ready to take someone away. You know, so much more could happen. It doesn't take away the frustration of all that's happening to our gadgets or our wallet, but it does put it in perspective.

He is faithful even when so much else is not.

Successes and Mishaps!

I am slowly learning as a parent that really my child is teaching me. I've had some friends ask me, "How did you know to do (that) with her?" "How did you know she was ready for ______?" Ultimately, there are 2 big things other than the Lord's grace to teach me and show me and give me wisdom as a Mommy.

1 - My friends - I see wisdom and faithfulness in my friends as they parent their kids. I see the mom do something or the child do something and I think, "Hmmmm. I should probably try that too. I haven't even thought about encouraging/teaching Karis to do (that)."

2 - Karis - A lot of times she shows me when she's ready for something. I remember the first time she responded to me when I corrected her or gave her an instruction and I said, "Ok?" She said "K." I thought, ...Hmmm, I should probably start consistently making her respond to me verbally when I say something.

Well, with the whole subject of potty training, I have felt at a loss. I don't know how to do this. When is she ready? I don't want to start too soon, etc. Then over the last few months, she does these things...

She brings me the changing pad and a diaper and lays down in front of me for a diaper change.





She helps Bear go potty.





She wants her Baby to have a diaper change first.





Well, I am no parenting expert, but I can see some signs! :) So, I decided to jump in and try it with the book, "Toilet Training in Less than a Day". Amazingly, she is doing SO GOOD! I am now a believer! I have truly been surprised at how fast she's getting it. I know we are just in the beginning but she has a great start. We had an intense morning of training Wednesday. She had 5 accidents that day, 2 of which she came to me saying "Potty" but just didn't make it in time. Yesterday or today she hasn't had an accident yet! So, we'll keep encouraging and helping. We haven't left the house yet, which we will tonight to visit friends and we'll go to church Sunday, so we'll see how it goes.



Well, those are the successes. Here are a couple mishaps (and laughs) of potty training.

The first day she pooped in the potty after peeing a few times. She just kept looking at it and telling me to look at it. She was so proud, but she wouldn't pick up the pot from the little potty to dump it in the toilet. I told her, "Karis, poo-poo goes in the big potty just like pee-pee. Put the poo-poo in the big potty." Well, such a good listener she is, she reached right down there and picked up that poo-poo and turned around to hand it to me!
"NO, NO KARIS! YUCKY, YUCKY!" So we washed hands good after that!

Then yesterday, she was attempting to put the seat back on the little potty after dumping it. She gets it turned around a lot and gets tired of it and just wants me to do it. I've really been trying to encourage her to do it herself. So, as she was trying, I just left the bathroom to leave her to finish. She came into the kitchen a few seconds later, holding up the potty seat with her face in the hole, saying "Look, Mommy." Again, "NO, NO KARIS! YUCKY, YUCKY!"

:) Doesn't parenting stretch us and make us laugh and teach us patience and teach us how to be a teacher??

I love it.

Symphony Tickets!!

I have 6 tickets available for the Charlotte Symphony! It's the Magic of Christmas performance on Saturday, December 6 at 2:30pm. I have 3 pairs of tickets all on the Orchestra level, mid-level rows. I ended being given 10 of them and am not going to use them all. They sell for $50 online, but you can have them for $25 each. Let em know if you want them!

Potty Training advice

So I guess we're at the beginning of the process with the potty around here. I realize Karis is barely 18 months and I am not in a rush. However, she is showing some signs of readiness. She's talking about the potty a lot, tells us about pee-pee and poo-poo, though I don't think it always coincides with the act of doing it. We borrowed my mom's little potty and Karis asks to sit on it a lot - a few times every day. Last week she pooped on the potty twice and today jumped up from the potty and peed on the floor. So, with the list of her symptoms :), what would any of you suggest? books, materials, when to start training panties (she has been doing pull-ups during the day), should I just let her go gradually b/c she's young or be more intentional now that she's showing signs? I don't want to start too early when she's not really ready, just to go backwards. I would love to hear some tips and stories from my experienced mom friends!

How do you respond...

when someone makes a racist comment? I'm not talking about on TV or overheard in the grocery store. I mean in a direct conversation with you and they say it like of course you would agree. I had that happen yesterday. I have noticed that since I married Dee, no one really says anything about blacks anymore. But that doesn't stop them from making really derogatory comments about Hispanics. I feel just as offended when I hear it. I don't have a relationship with anyone right now that is Hispanic, but I feel more sensitive to minorities in general since marrying Dee. It seems (in my unresearched opinion) that a lot of Southerners are conscious of racism against blacks and are more careful about their words. However, there is much freedom in comments against "Mexicans". Because that is the term used for ALL people of Hispanic origin. Dee has even told me that on the west coast, "Hispanic" is not really an accepted term, but you should say "Latino" instead. I have had several instances where people I know make very negative comments about them, saying that they are uneducated, dirty, don't take care of their children, and are here to "take over". AAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!! I want to confront it when I hear it, but I really don't know how to do it with a balance of firm clarity and gentleness. Do you ever deal with this?

Ever Been There?

Have you ever been in that place where you're the new one in the group? You feel awkward, don't really know what to say. You want someone to talk to you, but don't know what to talk about. Ok, ok, I'm talking about myself. Dee & I went to a community group for the first time at the church we've been attending for the last couple months. It really was good and we enjoyed it. They passed out paper and pens and asked everyone to write down a question or topic to discuss. It could be about anything. I could NOT think of anything to write. So I didn't. I know that sounds lame, but I couldn't get away from the thoughts in my head. What's this group like? How do they interact? Are there Christians or non-Christians? In that setting, I tend to get really quiet.

I hate that awkward feeling. But it's required to get to know new people, right?

Motherhood is a Distraction

Is this just a new mom thing or will it stay with me? Motherhood can be such a distraction to me. I know that sounds terrible like I don't want to be a mom or I'm not enjoying it. That's not the case at all. I LOVE being a mom and I really enjoy being with, teaching, playing with, and training Karis and I really look forward to more children being in the mix with us. But...I feel consumed with it at times. I don't feel nervous/anxious as when Karis was an infant, but much of my mental and emotional energy is wrapped up in being a mom.

It is a distraction from my relationship with the Lord. At the onset of my day, I am thinking about things to prepare and the reality of the hour in the context of our schedule. At the end of the day, I'm tired and trying to process what needs to be done for the next day. I have a really hard time at church lately. It takes me a while for my mind to slow down and stop working from what's happened that morning, how Karis is doing in the nursery (which is not too good lately) and keeping an eye on the screen to see if Karis' number comes up for me to come get her. When I do sit to read or think to pray, it's hard for my mind to settle.

Will it get better? Or is it just a discipline issue? I am so out of the habit of being with the Lord, I just feel rusty.

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Good Stewardship

Here's another advertisement for something I think is a really good opportunity. To the right is the button for Revolution Money Exchange, which works just like Pay Pal, except that it is absolutely free to not only send money, but receive it as well. We are investigating trying it out on our business website. Signing up is better than free, you actually get $25! Check it out.

Four Generations

I love this precious picture.
My 93 year old grandmother, Jane Davis, my Mom, and of course, me & Karis
I love to see Karis build relationships with my grandmother and my mom and I love to watch them loving and enjoying her. Karis doesn't yet realize how blessed she is to have 2 wonderful Grammies and 2 wonderful Great-Grandmothers (and one great Pops!)
I treasure these years we all have together.

MY GIRLS

I had a very special reunion a few weeks ago that I haven't shared yet. When I was on staff with Campus Outreach, I had the privilege to be in the lives of 8 very special women. They were all college-age, some taking classes part-time or full-time, all working and figuring out life for the future. Most of us lived in a house dubbed, "The Swan Dive" in Matthews. Can you imagine a 4 bedroom house with 6 girls? Yes, it was adventurous... it was intense... it was a lot of fun! I miss those days and the time I had with them. I could tell so much about each girl and their heart and their journey with the Lord and all our journey's with each other. Those years were a HUGE growing time for all of us about relationships, communication, conflict, and forgiveness. (They're laughing if they're reading this.) It was so good to get together and share about old times and catch up about new times. There are a couple marriages, a couple babies, an engagement, lots of moves and new jobs, and so much more to come. I wasn't teaching them or leading them this time at all. I just sat back and listened a lot and watched and praised the Lord for what He's done in all of us!
Here are a couple quotes from emails sent among all of us.

"I wanted to see where God has brought us from the first day we had been introduced. Do ya'll realize just how far we have come?? We still struggle daily but it seems that we all know who to hang onto."

"I was also very encouraged by all of you, by your commitment to the Lord! He is doing alot in our lives and I pray we continue to keep our hands and hearts open for Him."

I hope the Lord will allow me to continue to grow with groups of women throughout my life, but I don't know if any will ever have my heart like these women!



Jen, me, Jessica, Kali, Ali, Michelle, Christy (Shannon & Megan weren't able to come)

Yes, Karis was there and enjoyed ALL the attention from all her aunts! (she was asleep for the picture!)

Country Girl

We've been on vacation in Mississippi visiting my grandmother, and some time in Florida visiting some family there. We had a great time, and after the scare of losing our flight by Skybus, we made it in and Karis became a full-fledged country-girl.Check out for yourself:

D&S Products

Technology - Simplified for You

Yes, friends, D&S is for Dee & Stacey - ingenious, right?
So, for those who haven't heard (but probably you have heard), we started a business. Yes, we're combining Dee's techie skills & my detail/admin skills to try and further provide for our family & have fun with some cool products. I realized I haven't mentioned it here on our blog and what better place? :)
So, we're selling Linux-based laptops. Right now, it's just Asus Eee PC's - small laptops. Have you heard of them? Dee & I both have one since they are so affordable & we LOVE them. I won't give you a big sales pitch or anything...just a link to our website:
www.dandsproducts.com
We are spending a lot of time on this and it's going really good! We have several in stock & they're going fast! So, ok, I can't resist - check it out more if you care to, but they come in black & white, and they're only $379.99 without webcam!! I literally carry it in my purse! Spread the word & let us know if you want one! :)

Tis Now, but what about later?

This morning in church, we sang a great old hymn "If ever I loved thee, my Jesus tis now" I was really worshiping and experiencing the Lord, then we got to this verse...

Ill love The in life, I will love Thee in death
And praise Thee as long as Thou lendest me breath
And say, when the death dew lies cold on my brow
If ever I loved Thee my Jesus tis now

Oh, it so moved me. I am not on death's bed nor admittedly, do I think about death often at a young age and good health. But I have known those who have died in Christ. I quickly thought of our dear friend Linda Longbrook and just cried in worship to the Lord and thankfulness for her and the life she lived. She was not perfect, but she did live a God-honoring life. And she died a God-honoring death. God did lend her breath for many healthy years and He lent her breath during the years she fought cancer. And the death dew did come and it did lie on her brow and that dew did grow cold. She died a God-honoring death, a Christ-exalting death. She loved Jesus so much in her fight and though her body lost, her soul found victory that day! May I live a God-honoring life that shows "'my Jesus I love Thee". And may I die a death like Linda - that exalts Christ and shows my intense love for Jesus as I finally see Him face to face!
Amen.

Remembering Buster

BUSTER LANIER
1997-2008

It has been an intense week at the Lanier house, especially for Dee. With the incident at his school, making up work from a snow day, and much work on the new business D&S Products, it got more emotional on Thursday when our dog, Buster died. I have to admit, I'm (Stacey) not much of a pet person, but I have grown to like dogs (most of them), prefer Boxers, and love Buster. So, this is a tribute to Buster. I'll tell you his story for those who care to read on.

Dee adopted Buster from a Boxer Rescue in 1998. He was about a year old and had been severely abused and Dee really had the heart to take this needy, emotional dog and bring him back to health. For some of you who met Buster in the early years, he seemed aggressive when he would bark and bark when anyone (especially men) would enter the house. Really he was just scared. In his old age, he grew out of that, but continued to be a very protective dog for Dee.

When Dee & I were dating and talking about marriage, he knew I wasn't much on animals, especially not in the house. So, when we got married, Dee took Buster to Mississippi to stay with his grandmother. Buster was good ol' country dog with acres of land to run in and the adventures of fighting and/or killing possum, armadillo, skunk and all kinds of other animals. He once greeted our car with a deer skull in his mouth that he had found in the woods. He was so proud and I was so disgusted!

Buster played a huge part in Mississippi during Dee's grandfather's illness. He stayed right by his side when he was taking walks on their land outside. Dee's grandmother still tells us the story when Buster kept barking and barking and wouldn't let her walk the way she wanted. She finally followed him and he led her to Grandpa who had fallen and was too weak to make it back to the house. He was better than Lassie! :) She still has his picture in a frame in her house!
We decided to bring Buster back to NC when we bought our house with a fenced-in back yard and we had Noah, our other boxer then, who was just a puppy. Buster didn't like sharing Dee with me and especially not this annoying new puppy. He beat Noah up a lot and wouldn't let him in the dog house. They finally got to be good friends, but they still fought a lot.

After we gave up Noah, Dee convinced me it was too cold and Buster was too old to be outside by himself. So Buster finally got his wish - back inside with Dee. He mostly just laid around and slept and ran away from Karis. She loved him, but I think she was overwhelming to him with all her shrieking and smacking him.

He has been sick for a while, we noticed, and we found him Thursday already gone after he obviously wasn't feeling well. Dee misses him, but he's doing ok.
Here are some pics of Buster at his finest!